Our 25th wedding anniversary was
May 25, 1999.
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I'm not sure I know what it means to be a good husband. I always knew
what to do as a Dad, but being a good husband is a little trickier. I have three older
brothers and three older sisters and out of the six of them four have gotten divorces.
That probably matches the national average or something but it never concerned me much. It
didn't mean I was going to get a divorce. Besides I don't believe in divorce. But my
family's track record bothered my wife for a long time and I think it still does. When we
first got married I used to say "I told you I loved you when we got married, if I
change my mind I'll let you know". That's cute to say but it doesn't actually work
that way in real life. You gotta keep telling your wife how you feel about her or she
starts thinking you don't care about her. It took me a long time to figure that one out. I
guess it's kinda like with kids, it's not good enough for a husband to be a good husband
by his own standards he has to be a good husband from his wife's perspective. A few years
ago I started reading a book called "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus"
and it was a real eye opener. Men and women just have different needs and they express
them in different ways. It's not always easy to see things from the other person's
perspective. I guess after 25 years of trying we do okay but I think I'd like to give it
another 25 years before I decide for sure. Babe, if you ever develop an interest in
computers and decide to read this just remember I still love you.
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